The NC Children’s Home Society has post adoption services. Oh, so promising their letters of aid, they wanted to help me. “What type of trauma support can we offer you?”, said the post adoption counselor. The foundation of lies began to crumble. “No, I said” or “I meant to say. Now, all I asked for was to please give a advocate. Surely, they had one or knew one. The agency sent me the Rape Crisis Center in my county. I am a male.

Once, It was clear all communications were off, the next day, yes, she called. We were to have lunch and get to know each other. Gifts of memorabilia were promised. The post-adoption promised even Mr. Tutterow, President and CEO. Swimming on the bottom gets old and unproductive and cut through the bull and I headed for the president. Like the sunrise, suddenly, the worker said, “Oh, I did? say the president was coming?”. “well, no I did not mean that.”
So to break it down 1 man and 1 woman, both enemies. Lunching, in a small town? Nope and even before that final blow, my interest were best served not going.

The NC Children’s Home Society, from my life experience, sounds wonderful and a candy land of tots. Sadly, Sean Paddock, damaged their armour. The newsletters, just perfect and so heart wrenching. Beware, if it looks to good to be true it usually can be the case. My sister, also incest victim, went “crazy”. My parents, they begged for help, local mental health, ah really.

The Children’s Home Society, who are they? It is like a baby mafia. It is not the agency as a single factor in my condition. However, we recycle these days and every box has sign. “Adult Victim Of Incest”, is not among them.

From the Children’s Home Society, “Adoption is a lifelong experience and supportive and are available to all those involved”

Hey and Thanks for the rant!

Arthur

Also stopping all abusive stepfathers and other men in the home at any age. None of which has anything to do with academics for the child but a whole lot to do with what the adults never learned to do better than.

It seems to me compulsory school for PARENTS would stand a better chance of making kids’ lives better — but of course if schooling failed to educate and improve them as human beingsfor all their own formative years (and it did, apparently!) then why would it be any more likely to fix them after they’re scarred adults?

The answer is that academic schooling isn’t the answer to helping anybody learn to live well, not for babies or toddlers or teens or prospective parents or creepy uncles or grandmothers. Certainly not for anyone who would beat a baby, terrorize a toddler or otherwise hurt a child.

I also wonder if homeschooled children aren’t less socially adept as they grow up, and what they might miss by simply not mingling with their peers through their childhood years. The issue of hidden abuse is certainly important too; any time you shield children from an outside environment, it’s a potential abuser’s avenue to remaining unknown.

I come from an alcoholic/abusive homelife, and believe me, I LOVED public school. It was the time I could get away from the nightmares of homelife and made me realize our living situation was highly abnormal. While abuse certainly takes place even in homes where children are in public schools, at least the children have time AWAY from that environment — and in today’s more open willingness to report and investigate abuse, it could save lives.