This promises to be
14 01 2010A crazy year.
Kids moving in an out? In retrospect, that will probably seem tame, a year from now, when I think back, or when I read over my old blog posts (as I am apt to do at the beginning of a new year).
About a month ago, I found out from my oldest son that I was going to be a grandmother. That was sort of shocking. Me? Am I old enough to be someone’s grandmother? I guess so.
It seems I’m going to be a grandmother times two. Let’s hope it’s just two.
One of my daughters is pregnant - about 7 weeks. Yes, it was a shock all around. She’s only been dating this particular young man a few months. But after a few days of talking, it seems all will be good. He has a good job, money in the bank, a house, and a good attitude. While they haven’t been dating long, they’ve known each other their whole lives. The young man is a good friend of my older son’s, in fact is his ex college roommate. I greatly admire how he’s reacting. Will they marry? I don’t know. I don’t care at this point, because they’re both stepping up and putting the welfare of their child first. They’ll figure it out as they go along. Plenty of good long term relationships have started exactly the same way. I can only be positive.
I’m going to have two grand children by next fall.
Oh, and if someone tells you their daughter is pregnant, and isn’t married, which, come on, isn’t really a big deal in this society, don’t say the following:
“Is she going to get rid of it?”
“Oh no, what is she going to do?”
“Oh, I’m sorry, that’s too bad..”
“Does she know who the father is?”
“She wasn’t on birth control?”
Not one person said any of the above when I announce my son’s gf was pregnant. No, then it was all “congratulations!”
People can be really fucked up.
My niece is in the same position as your daughter. My father was able to keep his mouth shut and his advice to himself because my stepmom was standing beside him telling him to. I was proud he listened!
Well, honestly, when she told me, my first reaction was to throw up. That was more just an overwhelming response to thinking of my baby having a baby, you know?
I found out my son was going to be a father when he was 17 and had already signed up to join the Army. It wasn’t a happy time. He opted to marry his child’s mother, they had one more baby, and then divorced.
But those two babies grew up to be the grandchildren most concerned about my welfare. They check in often.
You just never know when bad luck will turn into good luck.
I’ll say it!! Congrats, Doc, on being a grandma twice over!
Oh, and you are not old enough to be a granny. I know I’m not, either!
Mazel Tov! And you are going to have a wonderful year!!
PS: I can’t see you as Granny Doc.
Congratulations!
Congratulations X2~ ~!
“Granny Doc” yeah, I like it. How’s it going, Grans?
We’re up to four and still not married! Funny, after the first little bastard, no one ever mentioned it again. But, I remember how cruel our families were at the time.
Please, tell your daughter I’m very happy & excited for her and her guy. Tell her again that you are, too. Tell her again that you are, too.
Best wishes for two healthy, happy grandchildren. Twenty perfect fingers, Twenty perfect toes . . . the rest falls away so fast.
Congrats! I mean, *TWO* grandkids in one year? That’s pretty awesome.
Who doesn’t love a new baby?
De-lurking to say “CONGRATS, Doc!”
Babies! :0) Congratulations, Grandma Doc!
Congratulations! Wow - Grandma times 2
My grandparents met, married and had their first all within a year and a half. They are still together (and happy) 60 years later
Happy nesting, Doc. Even though so many alternative lifestyles really do work out fine, it just seems as though we want our kids to have some semblance of establishment and security before they are responsible for their own kids, doesn’t it? My daughter delivered the same news 6-1/2 years ago, took until the baby was 2 to marry the father, and found herself abandoned about 9 months later. We used to say horrible things like “She can’t remember to fill the water trough for the sheep, what the heck will she do with a baby?” But she’s a better mother than I ever was, and now an amazingly devoted foster mother too. And the granddaughter? She is absolutely the light of our lives. Yours will be too.
I’ll say, “Congratulations!”
Congrats! Here’s to two healthy mama’s and babies. Some of the best things start out as surprises (our #4 sure is a great one for us).
My usual response is something along the lines of, “so how’s that working out?”
Wow–Congratulations times two!
To all the stupids that said that to you about your daughter… Booooo… Hissssss!
Congratulations!!!! I couldn’t picture a cooler grandma.
Love them because you’ve got them. Kids and Grandkids both. Your grandkids are going to have sweet memories of their times at Grandma Doc’s farm.
Your kids might drive you a little crazy but the grandbabies will make up for EVERY SINGLE THING.
Just in case you hadn’t figured out, I’m sure that we’d all love to have pictures, share the smiles, the fat little legs, the drooly grins..all those things that Grandmas and Aunties adore.
Congrats to one and all!
I’m so buying a pony. My kids had a pony. It was mean. My grandkids need a pony.
Yeah, they will need a NICE, old pony eventually. In the meantime, everything with four legs will be called a doggie or a kittie anyway. But hey, those little muck boots are so very cute!
Your other non-parent kids will have a blast being Aunties and Uncles. Enjoy the upcoming crazy ride.
Congratulations on both grandchildren!
I highly recommend “My Best Birth” as gifts for the mothers-to-be. I just gave it to a friend of mine who is newly pregnant and she loved it. She also enjoyed “Born in the USA” by Marsden Wagner MD and “Ina May’s Guide to Childbirth” by Ina May Gaskin.
Wow! Two grandkids thisfall. My best wishes to you and the new parents. The cool thing about grandparenthood–you get to spoil them and send them home to their mothers. Congratulations, Doc.
Another lurker peeking out to say Congratulations! Yea for same-age cousins who will have so much nurturing in their lives. Hope the pregnancies are healthy and trouble-free!
Two grandbabies! You’re becoming rich in the only currency that’s important. Congratulations!
Congratulations, Doc!
Congratulations to all involved and best wishes for healthy pregnancies and good relationships all around.
Congrats to you and your kids!
Sending good vibes your way that everything goes well.
The reaction to the pregnant unwed woman is always a load of crap. I was 27, had a BS in chemistry, a great job in research, awesome health insurance and I still got crap when people found out I was not married. I had to change ob/gyns because every single time I went in for an appointment they asked if I was going to keep it. Even my boyfriend at the time was horrified that I was not terminating my pregnancy. It’s rough, hormones and the word ‘terminate’ coming up constantly. I didn’t and still don’t believe that pregnancy is a good reason to get married. Tell her she needs to do what’s best for her and that’s what will be best for her kid.
On an up note, congratulations! Kids are awesome, lotsa work but still awesome!
Hi Doc, I’m new to your blog. Love your posts!
Congrats on finding out you will be a grandma x 2!! I have 5 kids and hope to SOMEDAY be a Grandma of many, but not anytime soon…my oldest is 14, I’m hoping she waits a minimum of 10 years. LOL
Anyway, it sounds like your daughter & her bf have good heads on their shoulders. You should be proud!